Listen. We are not taught anything about our brains. As we grow we learn to change or avoid pieces of ourselves to be likable. We try to shrink and reshape. Although we often fail at fitting in we succeed in withering our authentic selves. As the years pass we lose the ability to distinguish between our voice and the voices of the world. We become shadows of ourselves. Ghosts.
It is common, especially for women, to have grown into adulthood having skipped this part of development altogether.
We linger at the edges of our lives, never fully stepping into them, haunting ourselves while we wait for things to change. We will wait forever.
Without having built our foundation from within we end up struggling to remain steady in an unpredictable world. We are pulled and pushed and we reach for someone else to steady us. We depend on others to hold us up and they simply cannot.